Okay, they feel like Lane Bryant shouldn’t make clothes for fat girls, because that encourages obesity… really? So fat girls are supposed to walk around naked? They claim they do not hate fat people, they’re just trying to help, but they’re selling a line of clothing that basically gives license to pick on and humiliate fat kids for existing? If shaming fat people made anyone thin, America would be the thinnest country on the planet.
These people are batshit crazy, and need a hug and a sandwich.
Fat’s Not Cool is a website where you can tell people anonymously that they are fat.
At first glance this seems cruel, but in reality it is a lifesaver.
‘Cause obviously fatties are also stupid, oblivious, and delusional, and have no idea what we really look like. This had better be a joke, but somehow, I don’t think it is.
I’m guessing that this is a form of poor trolling or very misguided satire. Most of the functions on the site (which I’ve removed, because I don’t want to link to it) don’t work. There’s also the issue of calling Ashley Graham “REALLY HOT”. She is, but if “fat wasn’t cool” they wouldn’t be talking about how smoking hot she is.
Hello, my dear dieters. This blog entry is especially for you. If you’ve been reading my posts, you’ll notice a theme: that experimentation is good; that much of life is research, and if you treat it this way, you can experience your life without judgment. As a researcher, it is your job to look at your life and decide what you like – and keep researching what you might like even more.
In the spirit of research, I ask you to join me in celebrating National No Diet Day on May 6th. Take the day off from counting calories and weighing your food. Take the day off from eating what you don’t want to and exercising in ways that don’t feel good. Take the day off from worrying about messing up or staying on your diet.
As a health counselor, I don’t like to take anything away, but instead, add in great things. So today, I want you to check in with yourself and eat what you want. I want you to eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full. I want you to move your body only in the most delicious ways that feel good.
This process may not be easy for you. The more you’ve dieted and made yourself worry about your body, the harder this may be, but all I ask is that you try. You are a researcher of your own happiness. Today you are researching how it feels not to be on a diet. Just see how it feels.
To support you in this journey, I am reprinting my 16 Reasons Not To Diet. Why 16? Because that’s the average dress size of American women!
1) Many diets support the use of non-nutritional, highly chemicalized foods like fake fats and fake sugars. These chemicalized foods negatively affect body chemistry, cause low-level undernourishment, and often encourage overeating when the dieter gets the signal that s/he is not getting nourishment.
2) Diets have such a high failure rate that they are really a gamble with a low chance of success. If you look at the fine print of most studies on diets, they will tell you that diets have a 90-99% long-term failure rate. People lose some weight, only to find it creep back up, often surpassing their initial, pre-diet weight. Even the “successful” dieters often don’t keep all of their weight off.
3) Dieting gives dieters the message that they cannot trust their internal sense of what nourishes them. This distrust of internal signals affects other aspects of a dieter’s life, where they seek external approval and control of their non-food related actions.
4) The diet industry has a deep interest in the failure of dieters—if everyone got skinny, they’d go out of business.
5) Dieters’ self esteem is often tied to their weight—they feel good about themselves when they’re losing weight and bad about themselves when they’re gaining weight.
6) The diet system reinforces low self esteem in dieters by making them feel like they have no “willpower” when they have diet lapses. In actuality, diets encourage people to ignore their internal will in exchange for the perceived will of the diet industry.
7) Rather than being about nourishment, food often becomes about reward and punishment for dieters.
8) Diets cause dieters (who are often women) to revolve their lives around food rather than other things that may really matter to them (relationships, careers, social issues).
9) Diets cause a lot of body hatred, particularly when the dieter isn’t losing weight. Dieters tend to see their bodies as wrong and problematic when they’re not seeing the “results” they want.
10) Diets often categorize foods as good/okay vs. bad/forbidden. Just like our culture’s genesis story revolves around a woman eating a forbidden food (the apple), it’s human nature to want what’s forbidden. Thus, it’s no wonder that dieters often crave forbidden foods even more once they are forbidden, and then hate themselves for eating those foods (maybe because they’re made to feel as though they’ve caused all of humanity to become sinners).
11) Diets encourage what I like to call “lottery thinking”—most dieters know that diets haven’t really worked for them nor most of the people they know, yet they think that this new diet is going to make them thin, and they’ll finally be in that tiny successful group.
12) Most diet programs are expensive. I cringe when I think about the money that I and my friends and family have spent over the years on Weight Watchers, special shakes and diet pills!
13) For some people, diets are like Band-aids on deep scars. For people who really overeat and eat unconsciously, they often eat to numb their feelings and consciousness. Their issue is not really “portion control.” In fact, they often are too controlling of themselves and their emotions.
14) Diets assume that all fat people eat too much. They don’t account for the fact that people come in all shapes and sizes, and that a person’s weight is not an indicator of overall health.
15) The weight loss/gain cycle created by dieting is more stressful on the body than just being plain, old fat.
16) Diets work on a scarcity principle. Diets make dieters focus on lack, tell them they can only have “this much and no more” and that to want more is a bad thing. Because dieting is so all-encompassing, this scarcity principle often filters into other aspects of dieters’ lives. They begin to see lack and scarcity in their relationships, in their jobs, in the world.
So enjoy this day of no dieting, and notice your thoughts, feelings and food choices!
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The newest movie in the Shrek franchise includes an alternate Puss in Boots, “an overweight housecat that is too lethargic to even chase a mouse that helps himself to Puss’ milk.” How creative! Now a movie that was once about being yourself (in the form of a rather fat ogre, no less) is going to lecture children on how being sedentary will make you fat. And fat is the worst thing ever.
I LOVE FAT CATS! It’s like the creators of Shrek had never seen a fat cat before, they’re hardly lazy animals. Check this guy out.
His name is Linus, he’s one of the adoptable kitties at the no-kill shelter I volunteer at, here in the Bay Area. His picture doesn’t do him justice.
Linus is a BIG BOY. He’s easily as big as the depiction of “fat Puss” in the new Shrek film. I affectionately refer to him as a “lump of cat”.
Linus is frisky as hell, and will follow you to the moon and back if you pet him. He’s NOT lazy. He’s NOT sedentary (well, any more than a regular cat; cats DO sleep 18 hours a day) and he’s definitely not a “bad” version of a cat.
This is what a real fat cat looks and acts like, Dreamworks. TAKE NOTICE.
I wake up with the world’s surplus supply of energy burrowing through my body like a mole. It starts at my eyes, when I can no longer keep them closed. From there it travels down, wiggling fingers, waking my stomach, until it reaches my left leg. It jiggles in my ankle like a rubber ball in a small box until I just have to get out of bed.
It’s then I know that today, things will be getting done.
Today, I finally got up the guts to tell a co-worker that I have feelings for him and asked him if he would like go out sometime after work. He politely declined, and I wasn’t too hurt. That was until I heard him tell another co-worker that he doesn’t “do fat chicks.” FML.
Today I made tofu lo mein. I forgot the carrots. I learned that oyster sauce is very hesitant to come out of the bottle. I also learned that the recipe tastes a lot like yakisoba, which is one of my favorite foods ever. The likelihood of this entering my repertoire is very high.
“The two major causes of child overweight are 1) misinterpreting a child’s normal size and shape and labeling it overweight and 2) imposing food restriction.”—Ellyn Satter (via fatadelic) (via ilovefat)
“No matter what a woman’s appearance may be, it will be used to undermine what she is saying and taken to individualize - as her personal problem - observations she makes about the beauty myth in society.”—Naomi Wolf (via fakefuckery) (via donewiththisshit)
Pretty is pleasant, and fun, and satisfying, and makes people smile, often even at you. But in the hierarchy of importance, pretty stands several rungs down from happy, is way below healthy, and if done as a penance, or an obligation, can be so far away from independent that you may have to squint really hard to see it in the haze.
But what does you-don’t-have-to-be-pretty mean in practical, everyday terms? It means that you don’t have to apologize for wearing things that are held to be “unflattering” or “unfashionable” — especially if, in fact, they make you happy on some level deeper than just being pretty does. So what if your favorite color isn’t a “good” color on you? So what if you are “too fat” (by some arbitrary measure) for a sleeveless top? If you are clean, are covered enough to avoid a citation for public indecency, and have bandaged any open wounds, you can wear any color or style you please, if it makes you happy.
Hi, my name is: Mina Never in my life have I been: to write neatly The one person who can drive me nuts is: my mom High school: is best not talked about When I’m nervous: I can’t look people in the eye The last song I listened to was: Sekirara - Kiyoharu If I were to get married right now my best man: my cat, Kage. My hair is: Medium brown with copper highlights in the sun. When I was 5: I fell into the creek in the backyard and came up with coated in slime. Last Christmas: I got a stand mixer, and admitted a shameful secret. When I look down I see: my tummy. The happiest recent event was: flipping an omelet without ripping it. If I were a character on ‘Friends’ I’d be: Monica, except I’m still fat. By this time next year: I hope to be an even better cook. My current gripe is: not enough money If I won an award, the first person I would tell would be: My mom. The thing I want to buy: A set of chef’s knives. If you visited the place I was born:You’d probably get robbed at gunpoint. If you spent the night at my house:The cats would keep you up all night.
I’d stop my wedding if: The preacher used words like “obey”. The world could do without: bigots, bullies and mosquitoes. Most recent thing I’ve bought myself: An ice cream maker Most recent thing someone else bought me: A cup of coffee. My middle name is: Marie In the morning I: stumbled into the shower before having a bowl of cereal. The animals I would like to see flying besides birds are: Beavers. So not aerodynamic. Last night I was: up too late. If I was an animal I’d be: a rat My birthday is: May 30th.
Today is the day that I stopped paying for ice cream. I whipped up a batch of heavenly vanilla in my brand new ice cream maker, sliced up some fresh strawberries from the Farmer’s Market, and ate like royalty.
They can be a little preachy. There are exercise tips, diet tips, snack tips, et cetera. I don’t buy cooking magazines for these things. I buy cooking magazines for recipes, and I’ve noticed that there are a hell of a lot of ads, lists of things to buy for your kitchen, and poorly researched editorials about dieting for a magazine with the word cooking in the title.
However, they have some damn good recipes. Today I made their Sour Cream Coffee Cake, which was featured in their March 2010 issue. It was a resounding success. The cake is light, moist, fluffy and flavorful. The only modification I had to do to the recipe was to cut 8 minutes off of the cook time because of how high my oven runs.
There’s no moral imperative for me to make low-fat or “lite” food, but if I can do so without sacrificing flavor or texture I don’t see why I shouldn’t.
So today, Cooking Light is my friend. We’ll see what tomorrow brings.
It’s a dog whistle for “thin enough.” People who have had it with body image nonsense hear the judgment, while anyone else can say, “What’s wrong with health?” Nothing’s wrong with health. But that’s not what we’re talking about.
This phrase can be rehabilitated! Notably in contexts that explicitly acknowledge that:
one person’s healthy weight range may differ by hundreds of pounds from another person’s;
one’s healthy weight range may change over time;
that this healthy weight range may even be AESTHETICALLY UNAPPEALING to lots of people;
and that mental and emotional health are at least as important as blood pressure (or whatever else) and require (once again) different things for different people.
“Poets lock up your words, your tongues are all tied
Oh let read in every history book that the poets all tried to lull us
With lilting, songs of a struggle to mountain up a notion
That we were something more than animals
Be clever not beautiful, oh be clever not beautiful
If your goal is plain survival well then be clever not beautiful”—Hawksley Workman, 2001